Sunday, June 24, 2018

What I learnt from my cab driver

Inspired by - Mani

In the software industry, we often have dependencies. Sometimes, we may often miss some important days. I missed my plan to be at home for my b'day, but the project manager convinced to reschedule my leave plan. If you are a work harder, without your notice a dependency will be created. This was happened when I am at low hierarchical level, there were no one below, and above me, there was only one hierarchical head.

When things have changed, now we have 3-4 hierarchies. Even, when one of the team member was not available, we should run the show. This one of the lesson taught by my upper hierarchy.

Coming to my cab driver, I need to board the cab at my stop by 9:20 AM. On one day, the cab struck in the traffic, he intimated me to catch the former cab and he called the cab driver and intimated the same.
          One-time, I missed the first cab, immediately the information has passed to another cab driver, and he picked up me.

I wonder, even we educated bachelor's degree, we couldn't maintain this at our projects, but we should learn theirs seamless handover in picking up the passenger and ensuring them to reach the destination on time, irrespective of who attended the passenger. The show runs without disconnect.

So what I learn from them?
# A dedication over your job, that makes them to look out of options.
# A good rap between the fellows, to help you in need.
# A good understanding of your fellowships, who can take the handover.
# Finally, the show never stops, whether you're there or not.

Saturday, June 23, 2018

Broken love stories -1

Influenced by - Teaching Fish Institute.

It was my busy days lot Engineering. With the provocation of my friend, I joined in a spoken English class. It was memorable days, we used to enjoy th every class. Each day we have a surprise with new things.

We learnt Surangani song one day ; we used to frame sentences in English, and I remember the silly question I asked to a woman. "Do you love me?" She replied, No, I am already married; I sung my second song, Appudo Ippudo from Bommarillu, on the stage; Delivered a dialogues of Pawan Kalyan, in the acting of Boat Survival with Captain.

One day, the new tutor stepped in, as his first, he started with gimme your introduction. We completed our turns one after one. Then he dogged deep us into the personal things, the turn awaiting for a thin and lean body, with white shirt waving like a flag on his body. He has smooth hair, I still remember he wear the sports shoes, that makes him odd from the group.

The question was this? Are you loving somebody? The lean boy replied yes. The tutor crossed his another question on him, when you will get marry? He replied, No, I can't marry her. We all looked puzzled, the question of why already gave work to every mind's in the class. In the last year, she died. A Hiroshima atom bomb exploded in our hearts, but silence spread in the class. There after no more words. But my gaze didn't went from him.

It was the first broken story, I heard. And also it was my inspiration in writing first story in this blog. Have a read.

Saturday, March 31, 2018

Robin Sharma Quotes on Love & Life

Here are the list of quotes of Robin Sharma.

Robin Sharma quote 1 - The Supreme happiness of life is the conviction that we are loved.

R.S quote2 : Everything happens for a reason, and there are no accidents in life.

R.S quote3 : Everyone who enters your life comes to you at precisely the time that you most need to learn the lesson they have come to teach.

R.S Quote4: In my relationships, I don't think about what I ll get from someone else. Instead, all I care about is what I can give.

R. S Quote 5 : An occurrence in our lives has no natural right or wrong to it - It simply is. But in our human tendency to control things, we rush to label it.

Robin Sharma 6 : The place where your greatest fear live is also the place where you greatest growth lies.

R. S QUOTE 7 - Life is short. Do not forget about the most important things in life, living for other people and doing good for them.”

R.S Quote8 : Everything that irritates us in others, will eventually tell about ourselves. If you do the inner work to substitute with pure love. Then you can only see pure love

Friday, March 30, 2018

Chanakya Chants

A small idea was stroked in my mind after reading the "Sri Veera Bhrahma Charitra", a future fore-teller, why cant we share his writings. I am in mid of his story book now, but before that I thought to share my previous quotes read from the book.

I chose Chanakya as first to share his quotes.

Following are the quotes I like from his book.
* Test a servant while in the discharge of his duty, a relative in difficulty, a friend in adversity, and a wife in misfortune.

* He is a true friend who doesn't forsake us in time of need, misfortune, famine, or war, in a King's court , or at the crematorium.

* Untruthfulness, Rashness, Guile, Stupidity, Avarice, Uncleanliness and Cruelty are a Woman's seven natural flaws.

* She is a true wife who is clean , expert, chaste, pleasing to the husband, and truthful.

* He whose hands are clean does not like to hold an office; he who desires nothing cares not for bodily decorations; he who is only partially educated cannot speak agreeably, and he who speaks out plainly cannot be deceiver.

* There is no disease as lust ; no enemy like infatuation; no fire like wrath, and no happiness like spiritual knowledge.

* These five are your father's; he who gave you birth, girdled you with sacred thread, teaches you, provides you with food, and protects you from fearful situation's.

* These five should be considered as mothers, the King's wife, the preceptors wife, the friends wife, your wife's mother, and your own mother.

* The king, the brahmana, and the ascetic yogi who go abroad are respected; but the woman who wanders is utterly ruined.

* Learn one thing from a lion, one from a crane, four a cock, five from a crow, six from a dog, and three from an ass.

* The one excellent thing that can be learned from a lion is that whatever a man intends doing should be done by him with a whole hearted and strenuous effort.

* To wake at the proper time; to take a bold stand and fight; to make a fair decision (of property) among relations; and to earn ones own bread by personal exertion are the four excellent things to be learned from a cock.

* Union in privacy(with ones wife); boldness; storing away useful items; watchfulness; and not easily trusting others; these are the five things are to be learned from a crow.

* Contentment with little or nothing to eat although one may have a great appetite, to awaken instantly although one may be in a deep slumber; unflinching devotion to the master; and bravery ; these are the six qualities should be learned from the dog.

* Although an ass is tired, he continues to carry his burden; he is unmindful of cold and heat; and he is always contented; these three things should be learned from the ass.

* A wise man should not reveal his loss of wealth, the vexation of his mind, the misconduct of his own wife, base words spoken by others, and disgrace that has broken him.

* To whose son is obedient to him, whose wife's conduct is in accordance with his wishes , and who is content with his riches, has his heaven here on earth.

* Don't reveal what you have thought upon doing , but by wise counsel keep it secret, being determined to carry it into execution.

* Those parents who do not educate their sons are their enemies; for as is a crane among swans, so are ignorant sons Ina public assembly.

* Many a bad habit is developed through over indulgence, and many good one by chastisement, therefore beat your son as well as your pupil; never indulge them. (Spare the rod, spoil the child).

* Lakshmi, the Goddess of wealth, comes of Her own accord where fools are not respected, grain is well stored up, and the husband and wife do not quarrel.

* Fondle a son until he is five years of age, and use stick for another ten years, but when he is attained his sixteenth year treat him as a friend.

* Religious austerities should be practised alone, study by two, and singing by three. A journey should be undertaken by four, agriculture by five, and war by many together.

* Constant travel brings old age upon a man, a horse becomes old by being constantly tied up, lack of sexual conduct with her husband brings old age upon a woman, and garments become old through being left in the sun.

* As gold is tested in four ways by rubbing , cutting, heating and beating -- so a man should be tested by these four things: his renunciation, his conduct, his qualities and his actions.

* Religion is preserved by wealth; knowledge by diligent practice, a k8ng by conciliatory words , and a home by a dutiful house wife.

* A wise man should not reveal his loss of wealth,the vexation of his mind, the misconduct of his own wife, base words spoken by others , and disgrace that has befallen him.

* He who gives up shyness in monetary dealings, in acquiring knowledge, in eating and in business , becomes happy.

* Do not let your foot touch the fire, the spiritual master or a brahmana ; it must never touch a cow, a virgin, a n old person or a child.

* Conciliate a strong man by submission, a wicked man by opposition, and the one whose power is equal to yours by politeness or force.

* O wise man! Give your wealth only to the worthy and never to the others.

* After having rubbed oil on the body, after encountering the smoke from a funeral pyre, after sexual intercourse, and after being shaved , one remains a chandala until he bathes.

* Water is the medicine for indigestion; it is invigorating when the food that is eaten is well digested; it is like nectar when drunk in the middle of a dinner, and it is like poison when taken at the end of a meal.

* Knowledge is lost without putting into practice; a man is lost due to ignorance, an army is lost without a commander; and a woman is lost without a husband.

* A man who encounters the following three is unfortunate; the death of his wife in his old age, the entrusting of money into the hands of relatives, depending upon others for food.

* There is no austerity equal to balanced mind, and there is no happiness equal to contentment, there is no disease like covetousness and no virtue like mercy.

* Beauty is spoiled by an immoral nature, noble birth by bad conduct, learning, without being perfected, and wealth by not being properly utilised.

* The student, the servant, the traveller, the hungry person, the frightened man, the treasury guard, and the steward ; these seven ought to be awakened if they fall asleep.

* The serpent, the king, the tiger, the stinging wasp, the small child, the dog owned by other people and the fool; these seven ought not to be awakened from sleep.

* He who neither raises fear by his anger, nor confers a favour when he is pleased can neither control nor protect. What can he do?

* Poverty is set off by fortitude; shabby garments by keeping them clean, bad food by warming it, and ugliness by good behaviour.

* What is it that escapes the observation of poets? What is that act women are incapable of doing? What will drunken people not prate? What will not crow eat?

* Generosity, pleasing address, courage and property of conduct are not acquired, but are inbred qualities.

* He who is engrossed in family life will never acquire knowledge, there can be no mercy in the eater of flesh, the greedy man will not be truthful:; and purity will not be found in a woman or a hunter.

* The student(brahmachari) should completely renounce the following eight things, -- his lust, anger, greed,desire for sweets, sense of decorating the body, excessive curiosity, excessive sleep, and excessive endeavor of bodily maintenance.

* The brahmana who is engrossed in wordly affairs, brings up cows and is engaged in trade is really called a vaishya.

* He is a blessed grahastha(householder) in whose house there is a blissful atmosphere, whose sons are talented, whose wife speaks sweetly, whose wealth is enough to satisfy his desires, who finds pleasure in the company of his wife, whose servants are obedient, in whose house hospitality shown, the auspicious Supreme Lord is worshipped daily, delicious food and drink is partaken, and who finds joy in the company of devotees.

* Those men who are happy in this world, who are generous towards their relatives, kind to strangers, indifferent to the wicked, loving to the good, shrewd I'm their dealings with the base, Frank with the learned, courageous with enemies, humble with elders and stern with wife.

* One indeed becomes blessed by having darshan of a devotee; for the devotee has the ability to purify immediately, where as the sacred tirtha gives purity only after prolonged contact.

* The house in which the lotus feet of brahamanas are not washed, in which vedic mantras are not loudly recited , and in which the holy rites of svaha(sacrificial offerings to the Supreme Lord) and swadha (offerings to the ancestors) are not performed; is like crematorium.

* He who regards as another's wife as his mother, the wealth that does not belong to him as a lump of mud, and the pleasure and pain of all other living beings as his own -- truly sees things in the right perspective, and he is true pandit.

* Realised learning(vidya) is our friend while travelling, the wife is a friend at home, medicine is the friend of a sick man, and meritorious deeds are the friend of death.

* Courtesy should be learned from princess, the art of conversation from pandits, lying should be learned from gamblers, and deceitful ways should be learned from women.

* The unthinking spender, the homeless urchin, the quarrel monger, the man who neglects his wife and is heedless in his actions -- all these will soon come to ruination.

* The wise man should not be anxious about his food, he should be anxious to be engaged only in dharma(Krishna consciousness). The food of each man is created for him at his birth.

* He who is not shy in the acquisition of wealth, grain, and knowledge and in taking his meals , will be happy.

* It certainly is nature of demigods, men of good character, and parents to be easily pleased, Near and distant relatives are pleased when they are hospitably received with bathing, food and drink; and pandits are pleased with an opportunity for giving spiritual discourse.

* Even as the unborn babe is in the womb of his mother, these five are fixed as his life destiny, his life span, his activities, his acquisition of wealth and knowledge, and his time of death.

* As a calf follows it's mother among a thousand cows, so the (good and bad) deeds of a man follow him.

* Poverty , disease, sorrow, imprisonment and other evils are the fruits borne by the tree of one's own sins.

* Oil on water, a secret communicated to the base man, a gift given to the worthy receiver, and scriptural instruction given to an intelligent man spread out by virtue of their nature.

* We should not feel pride in our charity , austerity, valour, scriptural knowledge, modesty and morality for the world is full of rarest gems.

* We should always speak what would please the man of whom we expect a favour., Like the hunter who sings sweetly when he desires to shoot a deer.

* It is ruinous to be familiar with the king, fire, the religious preceptor, and a woman. To be altogether indifferent to them is to be deprived of the opportunity to benefit ourselves, hence our association with them must be from a safe distance.

* We should always deal cautiously with fire, water, women, foolish people, serpents, and members of royal family, for they may, when the occasion presents itself, at once bring about our death.

* If you wish to gain control of the world by the performance of a single deed, then keep the following fifteen, which are prone to wander here and there, from getting the upper hand of you: the five sense objects (objects of sight sound, smell, taste and touch):; the five sense organs(ears, eyes, nose, tongue, and skin) and organs of activity(hands, legs, mouth, genitals and anus).

* One single object (a woman) appears in three different ways: to the man who practises austerity it appears as a corpse, to the sensual it appears as a woman, and to the dogs as a lump of flesh.

* A wise man should not divulge the formula of a medicine which he has well prepared; an act of charity which he has performed ; domestic conflicts; private affairs with his wife; poorly managed food he may have been offered; or slang he may have heard.

* There are 2 ways to get rid of throns and wicked persons ; using foot wear in the first place and in the second shaming them so that they cannot raise their faces again thus keeping them at a distance.

* He who wears unclean garments, has dirty teeth, is a glutton, speaks unkindly, and sleeps after sunrise -- although he may be greatest personality, - will lose the favour of Lakshmi.

* A true meal is that which consists of the remnants left after a brahmana's meal. Love, which is shown to others, is true love, not that which is cherished for one's own self, to abstain from sin is true wisdom. That is an act of charity, which is performed without ostentation.

* Sastric (scriptural) knowledge is unlimited, and the arts to be learned are many, the time we have is short, and our opportunities to learn are beset with obstacles. Therefore select for learning that which is most important , just as swan drinks only the milk in water.

* (Lord Vishnu asked His spouse Lakshmi why She did not care to live in the house of a brahmana's. She replied). O Lord a rishi named agastta drank up My father(the ocean) in anger, Brighu Muni kicked you, brahamanas pride themselves on their learning having sought the favour of my competitor Sharswati, and lastly they pluck each day the lotus which is My Adobe, and therewith worship Lord Shiva. Therefore, O Lord, I fear to dwell with a brahmana.

Sunday, March 18, 2018

Education System

Inspired By - Salt Mango Tree, Malayalam Movie.

After becoming a parent to a child, there are unlimited list of things to do, Planning for the Future, Health Care, Child Education, his/her marriage etc., Lets set aside the remaining things, there was a race for the school education now. I saw a post in FB, where the fees for an LKG student was 2 Lakhs per year, where my graduation fees was 22,500 per year.

Standing in a long queue, parents interview, mandatory English, I am not sure what more else they need from the parents. Is it only the education, the children needs??

After all, it is capability of the child who takes the knowledge into their minds. I don't remember the lessons what they taught me in the school education, literally they are burden of my age. Whatever I learnt that it is only after my schooling/college.

Even in office, there are wide varieties of schooling background, some people schooled at Govt, Some are from private, but who learned from the Govt schools are more skillful than Private schools.

Apart, education becomes 24X7 service, no holidays, missing family functions are the damn core problems.

And finally here is the expected calculation of total expenditure on child - 67 lakhs as per TOI.

0-4 years: Rs 6.2 lakh
5-8 years: Rs 6.9 lakh
9-12 years: Rs 8.4 lakh
13-16 years: Rs 10.5 lakh
17-21 years: Rs 35.4 lakh

I completely agree that our next generation will have the master minds to achieve anything, but at what cost.

Friday, March 9, 2018

Future

A small question makes me to think out of box, "what kind of life will lead by our next generations? And how priorities will change??
Jewellery: people will not hold the jewellery for savings? They just use for beauty. The gold value will decrease.
Dowry : There is no point of having Dowry, bcoz interstate/ religion will be more, there will be no grand parties.
Rice Farmers : They will be no farm land, we export Rice from neighboring countries.
Cities: If all the ppl displaced to the cities, ppl will be concentrated at one place and the food generated places will be placed at one place. May be it will farm by us(present generation).
Travel : ppl will not have time to travel, just they see it online. Visual Reality.
Low skilled jobs: will be highly paid jobs bcoz less man but more demand. Education will start on low skilled jobs.
Marriage Events: ppl will have less time to attend, and the marriages will happen at no guests. But ppl view it online.
Old ppl: No care takers for old ppl, high raise of demand for last day spending times by the 20th century end. May be they request for safe life ending.
Language : No noise of spoken words, they just write everything in words, or feelings forecast by robots. Kids will correct the parents grammar.
No paper, everything is in data, epaper.
Transportation : Every individual will have a car, ppl will opt less for public transportation. Buses will be available only for interstate, no city services.
Medical : Online doctors will be more and prescribe the medicines in online. They get the prescribed products through online.
Movies: Movies total time will decrease from 2.50 hrs to 1.50 hrs.
Children : Multi languages will be adopted by children as the parents has moved different states. Children will learn 2-3 languages, but they can write the language what they learn in schooling.
Disease : Medication will be found all the diseases, but ppl will get affected with small ones.
Present generation : Ear problems, Eye sights, Kidney Stones, Stress etc.,
Next generation : Mobile phones will attached to their eyes.
Technology development : No need one to wait for a service, everything will be doorstep.
Banking sector : Banks will disappear, only virtual banks.
Customs : most of the superstitious beliefs will end and also forgot the Indian customs.
Solar energy : No growth in the solar energy.
Voice automated systems : No tap, No click, everything will be voice automated equipment.
Battery : Whatever the development in Chemical, ppl will not get the long lasted battery.
Names : Tails for the names will totally disappear. Caste will be one.

Thursday, January 25, 2018

Butterflies in my stomach

Jan 18th, 2018 around12.00 PM
Met the doctor laxmi for the final check up. She insisted to join into the hospital within a couple of days. But we weren't ready. After a day thinking and suggestions, the next day we turned up to the hospital by 6 PM.

We took the first floor, 2B room. There was a one single bed of slim size and another bed of tall height of medium size, mostly not suitable for the patients. We confirmed that was the bed for the visitors.

Jan 19th, 12.00 AM.
The first pill was given to the patient and the nurses sent the remaining people out. Hearing only the sounds of radiology, seems like someone trying to find the missing aliens. The nurse called back those who were standing out after half an hour.

They found a white box newly in their room . Oh acha, pehle suna wo  sounds iss se aaye (Oh, the previously heard sounds came from this box!!!).

Everyone got ready for their snaps except the patient. She was in utter confusion and a fear ran over her spine.

Jan 20th 04:00 AM.
Someone knocked the door. The nurses came back to give the second dose. But this time they didn't send anyone to outside.

They applied a gel on the stomach and a handler has made to run over on the stomach by clockwise and then anti clockwise. They trying to find the particular sound, but it was not easy. After a struggle, a lub-dub sound screaming from the chatter box. The graph rate was around 130 beats per second and paper coming out by noting down all the beats without an escape.
That is my love at first sight.

Jan 20th 09:00 AM
Because of the long tiredness and sleeplessness, I took a long nap than usual. After the satisfying my hungry, I returned back to the hospital.

Jan 20th 03:00 PM
After coming to the hospital, I stunned after seeing my wife. She is not same when I looked in the morning. Her eyes covered with half black circles, her hair scattered and stands on the air, she just sat half bed by half legs out. By the time, we are expecting the delivery pains to be started and there was no clue for it.

Jan 20th 04:30 PM
A nurse came in her dark blue navy dress insisted the patient to come up  to the second floor for the check up. My wife with her body weight carrying another baby slowly ramped to the lift. In another few minutes, the same nurse came back and asked us to give the three Saree's and a coconut oil.

My mother-in-law and sister-in-law started the prayers and I followed them.

Jan 20th 05:00 PM
Another news bought by the sister, doctor want us to come to the second floor. A fear rolled in our hearts, and heart beats like a drum.

We and in-laws went to the second floor. The doctor wear the green dress which fit for the operation theatre. She boldly said, I am doing the C-section as there was no clue of expected labour pains.
With a shock, we turn our heads and faced each other. After a pause, I said Ok Doctor. She closed the door and we came back to pay the fare.

Jan 20th 05:30 PM
We got another news from the same nurse, the patient wants to see us. We took the steps and went as soon as possible.
My wife stood at the operation theatre main door. As soon as she saw us, she broke into long tears. We made to sit her near by chair and boosted up her courage. We just wiped the tears and asked us, do this for the baby. Don't you want the baby boy? She countered us, No, I need a baby girl. We waved and sent back to the OT.

Jan 20th 06:10 PM
After she went, a thousand of thoughts passed over our little minds. Everyone prays for god. But my gut feels different, it is not different from the morning. I don't know the feeling of it. It started roaring until it hears a baby cry. The butterflies in my stomach flies away after the pediatrician came us and poured the news into our ears that you had a baby girl, baby cried and everything was normal. For this good news, we have been waiting for the 39 weeks 5 days. We counted each and every second.

Jan 20th 07:30 PM
The room filled with the recent graduates, where fathers and mothers became grand fathers and mothers and my wife as a MOTHER and also helped me to graduated as a FATHER.