Inter-marriage

Topic -  Inter- Marriages (between different nations/religions/castes)
Inspired by -  self thought

If something is happening at present, it is not newly formed now. It would have the roots somewhere in the past.

Have you ever heard about the word "Epigamia"?

During the ancient period, it is not allowed to marriage between persons of a different nations. To make it sustainable their community or religion, someone put a rule to marry a man/woman within their community and religion.

But if you see, during the mauryan period(300 BC), a war between the Seleucus I and chandra Gupta Maurya ended with a peace treaty, and "an intermarriage agreement" (epigamia)

"meaning either a dynastic marriage or a more general agreement for intermarriage between Indians and Greeks. Accordingly, Seleucus ceded to Chandragupta his northwestern territories as far as Arachosia and received 500 war elephants (which played a key role in the victory of Seleucus at the Battle of Ipsus)"
Source -  Wikipedia

It is a marriage between different nations.

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A great reformer, founder of Dravidian Movement, E.V. Ramasamy, twisted the government with the rules of Self Respect Marriage.

His claims:
1. Inequality among people.
2. All the people are treated equally.

Because of self respect marriage, a more couples are married between the different religions. And also gave life to the widowers.

A Hindu Marriage act (Madras Amendment) 1967 introduced section 7A, permitting self respect marriages as legal.

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Present Love marriages will prove that it is not a matter of caste or religion.  After all we are humans. But still is not indigestible for the past generations, but note that it is world is changing, implies we are changing.

What I have learnt when there is no money

It has been one year, struggling between my assets and liabilities. I could remember when I have money.

I balanced everything through the money,
* my small allured things to buy
* home needs where no need to depend on some one and finally I could help and
* serve those who are in problems, hand loaning the small amounts.

But the way I landed up from the past few months hasn't never been before.

* I accolade with a tag, you become selfish when the same people gained me a position of high in respect before.
* I couldn't lend my hand when some people asked for a help,
* The aversion thing in my life was cooking the  food. In my 27 years of life, I never been a chef.

But that is all I have gained.

The beauty Queen

Inspiration -  What I have seen
Genre  -  beauty is not all
Type -  Chandamama kathulu.

There was once a king Vasigara, where very fond of beauty of the women. His final aim in the life to marry a woman who is beautiful in the town.

He ordered his troops to find the beautiful girl in the town and as said by the king, the troops started in search of her. They knocked each door and enquired about the girls in the house. They compared first to the next and so on to find the beauty. At some places, they are unfit to find the best. But they prepared the list and called all of them to the king sabha.

King has also confused about the beauty, two of them were very charm and married both of them.

After some years,

An enemy allies declared a war on the king. The king doesn't have the strong army but fortunately king won the battle and he slaved the king's wife. But the fact is that, she is more gorgeous than his wives. And soon he married her too.

This gave a thought to seive the woman in the next allies and married them too

He started to find the girls and declared war in the next allies. Luckily, those were small confederators and King won easily on them and he married to the woman who were more beautiful than his present wives.

He always stick to the beautiful wife and neglected other of them. This caused the wives to avenge on king. And they came to know, he was fond of beauty not of love.

In the mean time,  the news spread in the other rajyas and feared about the king as he was going to declare war on them, if he found any beautiful woman in their town. And all the them confided to sue the king. They had a plan.

The king, without any knowledge, declaring the wars and accumulated a giant war soldier troop. And it was not an easy task to other kings to win against him.

An anonymous queen sent a message to fight against him. As it is not a Raja Neethi,  to fight on a woman, but his fond of beauty made him ready for the war. The king got the news about her charm and sensible beauty.

Soon, the king was ready for the war, as he heard, she is charm to the charm, beauty of beauty. He became mad of her.

On the first week, the king lost half of his troops. The second week half of her troops had diminished. Both the sides came into sandhi,  the queen reached the king camp and insisted for the lonesome talk.

But the later day, commander back off with the troops and declared his lost on the war as a king words.

And later the king nowhere in the history records and disappeared.

The fact is that the king poisoned with the drug and made him seem ugly. And the Queen is selected by the allies to suppress king vasigara.

Author notes:
The beauty doesn't lie on the face and it is not eternal. All matters is the inner beauty.

Does the dowry sin?

When at the daughter's age of 25, most of the parents will thought about her to get married soon. The father will bought all the assets made till in his life and made a price to buy the bridegroom. Of course, literally it is a flat sale. The demand of the bridegroom set by his parents and an alliance is made by the mediators.

I have a scene like, when my friend is giving a decent dowry, where her father put his most try but the alliance made a tie with an another extra amount of some lakhs. She shared her greiviance, how hard to her father to collect that extra amount. Then in the frustration, she showed anger on me and on the masculine too. Her straight question, if my father had tried his best, why the groom parents asking for more and what the hell groom is doing? After all, it is a matter of understanding, but personally, I support her words.

And after the another case in my life, actually which provoked me to write this post, If the husband has died, and he earned hard cored assets and expired in mid of his life... then all the assets have an authority for his sole wife, neglecting his parents. Then whether the girl would take his dowry back and will return remaining to their money to father-in-law? Of course the Indian law says, she has sole power of attorney on her husband assets, but the loss is from both the sides, a wife lost her husband and parents lost their son.

I donno the answer on which side I need to be. After all, money decides the human nature. But I understood, every human, including me., will bias to the benefit side.

But our discussion is about, whether Is taking dowry sin? Again I couldn't give the exact answer, because people are seeing both sides of the coin. But I recommend taking dowry is your wish, but if you take the dowry, let all the assets be on her name and make it as savings for her. My understanding on dowry, it is given to the girl for her safety.

And a final twist comes in here, if the girl is already well educated and standing on her own, earning her own pecks, then where the dowry should be placed? Of course, it is a valid point from a girl, after all, she is standing on her own, the dowry asset is to keep her safe. But every educated girl wouldn't get the dowry-free husband. Their mind set will be different. A change should come from the minds of groom and his parents. I encourage that the girl should demand too for dowry free.

Middle Note - I donno the actual essence of dowry, but I took the positive side... A dowry comes from the point that, during old days, people get married soon, where the groom side won't have much money to sustain the life(his father invested money on his studies) and then with a new woman in his life(woman were not earning at those ages) will be more hard, but by the time, his father in law will be earned some bugs and set alliance to keep his daughter well look after and which also helps the groom to be handy if he is capable to double the assets.
Now the things have changed, if the girl comes with no dowry, men should take her grant. This is for girls, Don't expect men and parents should come up first, we are in a society of benefit, not in the age of self-respect.

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After a few days of discussion with my friend

he proposed the solution for the second case, he suggested in one case, if the wife took the assets, she need to be with the father and mother in law and serve them till their lives or else if not opting for the money, she can marry another one.

And a counter question for the twist comes, if girl proposed for the dowry free as she was earning, she should not expect anything from the boys' side too. And it would be like a girl is dependent on father and mother in law. And both the couples need to come out of the family and they both need to manage to find their way to be well settled as a matter of self respect.

After from the different persons perceptions, I thought this would not come to end. As said, it have two heads and four tongues, in either way you will be discouraged out.

The feeling of touching the dead body

It is after my vacation from the home town in the Feb month. The day seems little drowsy as I acquainted with the late mrng wakeup's.
A call from my roommate alerted me,  it carried a news "my brother in law is not feeling well and get fainted and fell down". This is not for the first time, I am there with him when we took to the hospital for the some stomach ache last time. Thought it was same as the last time.

I took an one hour permission and started to the hospital,  it was only a 10 min drive from the office. I was just waiting for the auto and no one stopped. I got a call again, this time his voice was trembling, "Naga, go fast, doctors are saying that he is dead". I got freeze for the news, it would never happen. He was very carer for his health. I soothen him, I was on the way,  don't worry, I will go an speak with the doctors. Even I was confident that doctors are faking the news.

I ask some biker on the way to drop me at the next signal. I just ran to the hospital corridor. His sister was sitting near the steps and he, looks like sleeping on the stretcher. She just broke into tears after seeing me. I couldn't stop her when she holding my legs and crying a lot.

I went to reception, but no one looks like to give the proper information. I returned to the stretcher. He looks like normal and sleeping on a bed. I hold his hand and checked the pulse. I never check the pulse of any one before. Hope, I could identify between the living and dead person. His eyes are little open. How could you say he is dead? I was neutral, and didn't dare to check his heart.

A near people enquired about the death. But a woman in the group handed water bottle to me, "give to her, she is going to dry her throat" .  Even she tried to soothe her.

The hospital staff pinching questions about the dead body, are you going to take the dead body to house? Or will you take to your native? Are you from Andhra? I couldn't answer any of them, because I don't know, what to do.
     I called to my roommate and enquired how long it will take for you?

The woman who helped before, enquired, what doctors had said? We're there any chances? And she only took me to the doctor and spoke to them. They confirmed "he was dead before they come to the hospital" , and showed a graph paper, ECG report, where there is no pulse. And she took me to another room and confirmed again. Now I am slowly realizing that he was no more.

My roommate appeared in the hospital after half an hour. She broken more now. Now I got the strength and so he could deal the situation. He soothing her more carefully and she was listening to her brothers words by shedding the tears on the side And he too shed his tears when he come out of his sister visibility. I couldn't manage if both were crying.

He called an ambulance. But it arrived late because of the same hospital name exists in another location. There was a communication gap. It has been four hours when we started from the hospital.

The driver follows his route to reach the city outskirts. We three sat before the dead body covered in a cooling box. It was the first time to be in Ambulance and very near to the dead body too. We travelled for another 3 hours to get out of the city. And the driver stopped for his meal. No one has took the meal for the day. Even I didn't dare to them.  I left them in ambulance and sat on the highway, thinking about the God's play.

We drove for another 2 hours nearing to nellore. In the mid way, his uncles catch them up and everyone broke into tears on the road.

I drop off from the mid and they carried their way with the dead body in an ambulance and disappeared in the dark night's.

It took another 3 hours to reach to home and another 3 days to get out of it.

What I learned from my vacation

Inspiration -  Self Art
Topic - Respect to Artists & Writers Intellectual property.
Sources -  www.transformingthreads.com,  www.visual-arts-cork.com

It was my first long vacation in my 6 years IT career. I took 10 days leave after I have a deal with my Manager.

But before, I thought to turn this as a long trip to Delhi, but that didn't work out. I made a route to the home, not sure about how to spend these 10 days except my long pending things which are personal.

Every month, I will plan to spend my part of time on interested fields of study. In those, Arts & Literature were the amusing fields for me. Lucky enough, I thought at the best time, where I could spend some time now to excel it.

Writers Property:
That was on my train journey to the home, I came to know about a website, where the author finds hard to get the reading books when she moved to a bangalore. She is maintaining a blog herself, and one of the post, just stucked me, saying, it is just bad reading the books without paying a royalty to the writer, where their works are intellectual property of them. We need to respect them, by borrowing the original prints.  Among countries, unfortunately, India is of them, in pirating the books printing. I relealized my mistake too.

*The author is paying a royalty to the writers upon selling the ebooks. Books are turned to ebooks after deal with writers.

Artists Intelligence:
Art is one of the powerful source tool for bringing your voice out and is a source of expression. This is as per modernism art. If we dig the roots a little, the pre historic art came for knowledge sharing; Renaissance art for aesthetic sense(Leonardo da Vinci and Michaelangelo), where inturn segregated apart the Arts and Crafts, to bring the concept of utilitarianism; Surrealism, Dada(Abstract art to show anti revolution during World War 2); Cubism changed the arts view, bought by Picasso and finally Modern art(to share the view). The art has been changed by centuries and make it is properly undefined. This is only a drop, I learn in these days.

On my long reading knowledge about the different types of art, I came to know about a few things, where my art actually fit into(My arts which were recently posted on FB walls, belong to Drawing of Fine Arts) and also we need to pay respect to the artists for their intellectual works. When I gone through a website, the author pays a royalty when turning their classic arts into embroidery paints.

For everything and everyone in this world, we need to respect their intelligence and inturn their works too.

Salute to the Artists and Writers.

Chola love story

There once a king Raja Raja Chola, ruling the south India from the Tanjore district of Tamilnadu. The near future enemies are always strolling at the near by places of Chola Kingdom. But the king is good at war for his chanakya tricks. He had a princess named kundavai, who is the beauty of the beauty, charm of charm. She is well known for her archery skills. But her view is completely contra to Raja Raja Chola, she believes war creates havoc in the peoples' lives of both kingdoms.

As he believed, the vimaladitya Prince of chalukya declared war on the Chola. But the Vimaladitya have the same feelings as does have the  Chola princess. But the being a king, he could not avoid the wars. But as his attribute, he will try to avoid the war by speaking to the enemy's king before the war for the Peace settlement, but the bad luck, no one has ever listened to his words.

He did the same thing and met the Chola king this time. But the twist is the Chola princess came for the peace treaty instead of king. He fell in love with her on first sight.

And the Princess also likes his principles and wanted to marry him.

The war ended with their marriage.